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An Antique, Down-Home Wedding – Our Way

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January 2012

THE Dress! Part 1/3

Disclaimer-I have had my dress for over 6 months now…sorry it took me so long to write about it!

I’ll admit that I was kind of excited for dress shopping.  I rarely get to dress up.  Maybe once a year I wear a dress.  Twice a year possibly a skirt.  I have no reason to dress up.  I do love my jeans and t-shirt/sweatshirt “uniform” I get to wear daily to the very relaxed office. 

I started dress shopping about 2 months after being engaged.  Since we were having a 21 month engagement, it seemed early, but I wanted to get a jump on as many things as I could.   I was on a trip back home (my parents live 5 hours away) and since we had a few spare hours, I suggested to my mom that we try on dresses in the only bridal shop in town.  Fond du Lac isn’t that small of town, but it might need to catch up with the times.  I did not expect to find anything anyways.  This was (to me) an experience for my mom.  I am her first-born and she is pretty damn excited about the wedding.  Mom also wanted to look for her dress and my sister was along, too, so we could start thinking about bridesmaid dresses. 

I made an appointment and we went into Edith’s of Fond du Lac.  Now I am pretty sure my mom bought her wedding dress there.  They have been in business forever in an old building.  Imagine my surprise when I found out after going on their website they have a lot of high-end designers!

Edith's of Fond du Lac, WI
Edith's of Fond Du Lac

 They led me upstairs and told me to start picking out a few dresses to try on.  I also handed them a list from their website I wanted to try on, but they didn’t have a few of them in stock.  I kind of knew what I wanted in a dress, but I soon learned that I cannot wear any of the silhouettes I loved.  Iwas looking at non-poofy v-neck with lace.  I also wanted some type of strap.

The consultant was awesome.  Nothing was ever forced on me and I was never told I couldn’t wear anything.  I think she figured out it was my first time trying on dresses and was endlessly patient with me.  I did find a couples dream dresses that I kept in mind, but I had to toss those out the window after I made my budget.  I think after we got it narrowed down to 3, she happily put me in each one two more times!  I never saw an eye roll or heard an exasperated sigh. 

But, honestly, I can’t remember which dresses I tried on.  Plus they didn’t allow pictures and all the tags were torn out.  All I remember was I hated how I looked in almost all of them.  This store really didn’t have many dresses for a street size 14 to try on.  I can see having a few size 8’s and seeing how it might look, but almost all of the dresses I wanted to try on were in the model size 2 range.  I don’t care how much vaseline and pig grease you have, there was no way I could have fit into those dresses.   First dressing fitting, FAIL!

I did learn a few lessons on this trip though:

1) Bridal shops do not make you feel pretty when you can’t fit into anything.

2)Designer dresses are EXPENSIVE!  (But, I will learn, worth it.)   Most websites only give you a price range.  Note:  The dress is usually higher up in that given range.

There are no pictures of me in any of these dresses and I have filed this experience way in the back of my mind.

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Somethings really old

If you haven’t figured out by now, I am a nut for antique.  Not just “antiques”.  (My new favorite saying in my head is antique freak…sounds funny.)  History was my favorite subject in school.  I love sitting around listening to old stories of friends and family that can date back to waaay before I was born.  I love these stories and I also respect them.  I still believe in most of the old ways a child was raised, but that is a subject for a whole ‘nother time, place and blog.  I love gadgets that were made a hundred years ago, but are still useful today.   Good thing Mr. Kuz loves the same things.  For one, he never complains when I bring home some random antique.  Two, his favorite subject was also history and he can and does recite hundreds of random facts.  Three, he doesn’t mind looking at/trying to rebuild/even shopping/ for antiques.  His interest leans more towards farm machinery.

I wanted to pay respect to that history that made us.  Not just our short history, but all that can be found that led up to us. This is my picture project.

For the last 2 months, (mostly over Christmas because that when we got to see everybody)  I have been collecting family pictures of the parent, grandparents, great-grandparents…etc.  I want to make  sort of family tree out of them. 

Getting the pictures were easy.  I was surprised at both mine and Mr. Kuz’s family were so well-organized.  The photo albums came out, the pictures were already labeled.  After a quick trip to Wal-Mart, I had my own copies.  I did forget to label a few before I gave back the originals…oops. 

Getting pictures=Easy.  Organizing them…not so much.  There are multiple divorces, deaths and remarriage, and holes to fill.  For instance, on my mother’s side a couple of generations back, two brothers married two sisters…double cousins=Confusing as all hell!  Those would be my great-great grandparents.   On my dad’s side the father Herald married a Dorothy, their son Herald married a Dorothy!  Fun! 

But this is the type of thing I do love figuring out.  It won’t be long and one generation will not care about such things and the whole history might be lost forever.  Pictures have always held a fascination for me.  You should see our house; there are random black and white pictures everywhere.  I still have 10 photo albums and I do still fill them up.  I learned my lesson the hard way a few years ago when my computer crashed and I lost a lot of great photos.  Hard lesson to learn the hard way.   Lesson learned -back up your shit!

Now I just have a few more to collect and then I get the task of somehow arranging them on …something?  I have no idea.  Any ideas from the peanut gallery?

Tips for being engaged…the sane persons edition

So as I was cruising wedding porn (the updates from sites sent to my inbox) the other day, I got a few “tips” for engaged couples.  Now we have been engaged for over a year.  I’m not sure I need any tips on being engaged.  Tips on actually doing things and setting up a timeline, yes, but engaged, no thanks. 

One of the tips was “dedicate a wedding free night.  Talk about the dog, weather, whatever”.  HA!  Now I know things are going to be getting more hectic in the months to come, but honestly, I don’t want to talk about the wedding 6 days a week.  The more I look at it, timing should be the other way around.  I declare a new set of “tips”.

1)  Declare 1 night a week wedding night.  This is when you go over ideas, ask questions and decide on things together as a couple. 

2) Keep remembering this is our wedding.  Don’t be selfish…if you are, see #4 

3) Men have opinions.  Even if he won’t say his opinion unless asked, always remember he does have an opinion.  Bribing him with things sometimes helps…beer also helps get these opinions out of his head and through his mouth to your ears.

4) Don’t be a selfish bridezilla.  If you are being a bridezilla, don’t get offended when people call you bridezilla…or other names that shouldn’t be printed here.  (I have family who read this, plus one of my goals is to cut down on the swearing).

5) Dont’ feel like you have to do EVERYTHING together.  You’re still separate people. Besides any people who spend that much time together will go crazy and maim each other, and you don’t want Quasimodo waiting at the end of the aisle.  (just joking Quazi!)

6) For the brides…It is fun to grab everything any anything that has to do with weddings…at first.  I am pretty sure I stopped buying wedding magazines after 3 months be cause THEY ALL SAY THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER!  Same with wedding websites.  Corporate crap, I say. (see also-wedding shows.  Go to one for the experience.  Not much to do after that.)

7)  This is your wedding (hopefully the only one you will ever have).  Don’t let tradition (or parents) or crazy websites, tell you what you can’t do or have.  If you have no clue what you want, try blogs or Weddingbee.  Personally I’d stay away from commercial spots like The Knot, Wedding Channel, and such…they really pissed me off most of the time.

8) My biggest tip…do things whenever and however you both want.  It’s never to early to think, so if you do go to a bridal show and there something there you want, you have researched it and it’s within your budget, for all means go for it.  Knowledge is POWER!

Your welcome in advance.

Enjoy your engagement!

 

 

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