I was perusing some wedding sites awhile back and I stumbled onto theplunge.com.  I haven’t laughed out loud like that in a long time.  The whole site takes on the grooms perspective and what he needs to do (or shouldn’t do).  It also has some helpful area…such as the booze bible to let us know how much we need to buy.  And then we will double it because, face it…we live in rural Wisconsin and we love us some good drinks. 

While goofing off  researching, the site kept referring to bridal porn.  Now I thought this was something in guy code that I have never heard of.  After more research, it turned out bridal porn is the multitudes of magazines, tv shows, websites, and books that tell you to spend tens of thousands on this one day and if you really love that $5000 wedding dress it is worth going into debt for.  Now at this point I had looked at much bridal porn (I’ll admit it…isn’t that the first step?) and I did see a bad trend there.  To quote 27 Dresses “This is the crap the billion dollar wedding industry says you must have to make up a life.”

Now that I know what to avoid (the knot!-just rediculous.  They have no leeway in their “rules of weddings”), I am more happily planning our wedding.  It is our wedding and we will do what we damn well please.  If we want the bouncy house for the kids, we will get it.  If people want to camp on site, we will let them.  If we don’t want a head table, we will not have one. (I don’t like people watching me eat while they don’t have food yet.)  I know the parents, especially my mom, will not be so happy with these decisions, as she was with about every decision I have made so far, except for the church. 

I have found that certain magazines, like getmarried, has great ideas and inspiration.  Blogs have been my shinning light, hence the reason I started one.  I think that is great advice from real people with real problems.  I have bought a few others, just because they have pretty dresses on the front.  But in reality, I still buy way too many.  I mean, what am I going to do with 30 magazine after this is all done?  Keep looking at them…I don’t think so.  And that is when I had an epiphany…I can apply this reasoning to any wedding thing.  What will we ever do with…special cake cutting utensils, an aisle runner, a signature book, special jewelry that I will never wear again, junk that says bride on it, etc.  I could go on with stuff that will just collect dust.  I hopefully will remember this rule when I see stuff I NEED to have.  Will it really matter years down the road or be a signature part of the big day…no?…ok then, bye bye. 

Anyone have any good rules to pass on?

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